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10 biggest dating turn-offs for women

Most people have had to experience one of this at one
time or the other. A Nigerian lady with already
established expectations of the kind of person she wants
on a date, his attitude, manners and many other things
even a pen cannot put down, some of these just tend to
be seriously important.

Many guys have been here and experienced it.
The date’s going perfectly, but all of a sudden something
goes wrong and she’s gone cold.
Ever been there? Well, here are a few of the biggest turn
offs for girls that may have pulled the trigger.
Pinpointing the turn offs for women is not easy.
After all, every girl is different and made of sugar and
spice, right?
And which guy on earth actually knows all the ingredients of
that perfect sugar and spice blend?!
The biggest turn offs for women
On a serious note though, there are a few girl turn offs that
can pull the plug on a perfectly great date.
Turning on a girl isn’t easy, and we’re not just talking about
tweaking any body parts here.
Getting a girl to like you is difficult business. It’s like playing
a role playing game, where each move is unique and confusing.
But whether it’s making hay in the rain or just wanting to
know how to impress women, the biggest turn offs for women
are all the same.
Now, some women like big hands and some like small things. I
can’t tell you every girl’s personal preference, so I’ll just tell
you what you need to know to make sure you never find
yourself in the middle of a girl’s turn off zone!

#1 Insecure personalities
One of the biggest turn offs for women is a guy who’s
insecure about himself. If you’re not confident about
yourself or are feeling nervous, trust me, it shows. This is one
of the biggest reasons why guys get spurned on a date.
Are you happy being who you are? Do you think you make for
great company? If you aren’t happy being who you are, what
are the odds that the girl you’re with would like your
company? Some guys have a great positive aura around
themselves and some guys are just plain nervous and scared.
If you’re an insecure guy, it’s time to change your behavior.
Or lose the girl!

#2 Oversensitive guys
All our lives, we’ve been taught to be nice and chivalrous. We
know we have to help the damsel in distress, step aside in an
elevator, hold the door open for women, and make sure she’s
all happy and gay.
To sum it up, we’ve all been taught to think like a girl and
experience what they feel. But somewhere along the line,
some guys take the whole game of being chivalrous and
experiencing the womanliness inside a man to a whole new
level. Drum roll… welcome… the sensitive guy.
Sensitive guys are really nice guys who’ve listened to their
mama and have learnt their manners. They’re very much in
touch with the feminine side inside them, but they’ve been so
rigorously trained on connecting with their feminine side that
they’ve crossed the line and have gone way overboard.
Watching a mushy movie with a guy and crying on his manly
shoulder is a great way for a girl to spend Sunday afternoon,
but sharing tissues to wipe each other’s tears? Nope, that’s
just not right. Same goes with guys who ask if a girl’s having a
nice time a hundred times on a date.

#3 Being cocky or pompous
Some guys think they have it all. And at some point, all the
attention and the smothering from their parents and buddies
make them assume they own the world. They make idiotic
statements and love talking about their own glorious deeds or
misdeeds. Do you incessantly talk about how well you played a
game or how many cars you own?
Well, say what you want, you’re just going to be a cocky
pompous prick. Even gold diggers may get bored of you in no
time. Learn some humility and you could still get back in a
girl’s good books.

#4 The foot in the mouth
Now this isn’t a bad thing, but we’ve all experienced it. Here
are a few instances. You’re kissing a girl, and all of a sudden,
you stop and tell her you need to pee. You touch a girl on a
date and excitedly tell her how happy you are to touch her.
You’re having an affair with a girl, and you ask her if she
feels weird about kissing someone other than her boyfriend.
You get the drift, don’t you? This is not always your fault,
but nevertheless, it’s still a huge turn off for women.

#5 Boring guys
Gosh, another big one on the list. Have you ever met a guy who
was just too boring? Now I don’t mean nerdy or geeky, those
types can be great guys and even better boyfriend materials.
I’m talking about boring guys whose company can kill you in no
All girls and guys have experienced this at some point in their
lives. We’ve all had to sit next to a guy, and his conversations
were so boring that you would rather jump off a cliff. To
avoid being a guy in this cliché, work your conversation
around what your date wants to talk about. If you see her
looking around while you’re talking, it’s time to change the
conversation. If you see her eyes light up and her gestures
getting animated, you’ve hit the conversation jackpot, baby!

#6 Dumb guys
Are you a dumb guy? Yeah, of course, you aren’t. But many
guys are really dumb without realizing it. Now I’m not talking
about being an idiot or the village simpleton. I’m talking about
guys who speak their minds on a date, without thinking about
how their date would feel. If she’s looking around while you’re
talking, and you realize you need to change the topic of
conversation, do it discreetly. Don’t ever say, “oh, you’re
getting bored, aren’t you? You can tell me, I won’t mind…”
Unless you want your date to claw her nails into the leather
of her seat or crawl her toes in awkward cringing
desperation, avoid being a dumb guy.

#7 Fidgety and touchy guys
Movies always portray an exaggerated version of the touchy
feely guy. You don’t need to have sensitive nipples to be a
touchy feely guy in real life. The worst part of being a touchy
and fidgety guy is that most guys don’t know they’re that
Let me give you a few examples here. Do you play with your
hair, your pen, or start tapping your foot or drumming the
table now and then while bobbing your head like a giraffe
when you’re bored? Do you find yourself touching your chest
a lot after working out for a few days? Bingo! You’re that
fidgety and touchy guy. Don’t ever be touchy feely when
you’re on a date, it can be annoying and at times, even creepy!

#8 Narcissists
Now we have the mirror cracking good looking boy. Any guy
who spends more time in front of the mirror than his own
girlfriend is a huge turn off. But we’re not stopping there. If
you’re having dinner with your date, and the waiter
accidently spills a bit of juice on your silk shirt, wipe it away
like a man. Don’t whine about how your silk shirt is ruined and
behave like a drama queen.
In the world of dating, a narcissistic guy is one who’s overly
bothered about his own things like his cell phone, watch, or
just about anything else that belongs to him. Boy, you’re with
a woman. Let her be the cynosure of your eyes!

#9 A unmannerly prick
Manner, manners. Girls like a guy who knows his manners. Now
every guy should know his manners *though he should never
push it and become the sensitive guy*. But that’s not it at all.
There’s something even bigger.
You should be man enough to apologize or accept that you’re
wrong. No guy’s a bigger sore loser or a turn off than a guy
who just can’t accept his fault, but would rather throw
tantrums and make a fuss and pout like a four year old. Learn
to man up and remember, accepting that you’ve made a
mistake is not a sign of weakness.

#10 The overenthusiastic fan
Are you into video games? Sports? Or perhaps, you like your
well toned muscles that could put Brad Pitt in Troy to shame.
Stop talking about it for a minute. It may be football fever
or anything else. But going on about it when you’re on a date
is a huge turn off, unless she’s very much into the same
activity. And if she doesn’t like your favorite team or doesn’t
share your interest, stop trying to rouse her interest by
going on talking about it. It’s just boring!


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Love from a WOMAN

Nothing on this planet
can compare with a woman’s love—it is kind
and compassionate, patient and nurturing,
generous and sweet and unconditional. Pure.
If you are her man, she will walk on water
and through a mountain for you, too, no
matter how you’ve acted out, no matter what
crazy thing you’ve done, no matter the time
or demand. If you are her man, she will
talk to you until there just aren’t any
more words left to say, encourage you when
you’re at rock bottom and think there just
isn’t any way out, hold you in her arms
when you’re sick, and laugh with you when
you’re up. And if you’re her man and that
woman loves you—I mean really loves you?—
she will shine you up when you’re dusty,
encourage you when you’re down, defend you
even when she’s not so sure you were right,
and hang on your every word, even when
you’re not saying anything worth listening
to. And no matter what you do, no matter
how many times her friends say you’re no
good, no matter how many times you slam the
door on the relationship, she will give you
her very best and then some, and keep right
on trying to win over your heart, even when
you act like everything she’s done to
convince you she’s The One just isn’t good
That’s a woman’s love—it stands the test of
time, logic, and all circumstance………….


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86-Year-Old Playboy Hugh Hefner Weds 26 Year-Old

86-year- old Hefner and 26-year-old Crystal Harris finally tied the knot on December 31, 2012 at the Playboy Mansion.

The couple were meant to wed in June 2011, 18 months ago but ex-Playmate Crystal had pulled the plug on their relationship days before the wedding.
Crystal however moved back to the mansion early last year after sorting out her problems with Hefner.
This is Hefner’s third wedding and Crystal’s first try…

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36-Year-Old Virgin Reveals the Secrets to Practicing Abstinence!

Practicing abstinence is probably one of the most challenging things to do. Your mind, spirit, and body are constantly in conflict as you decide which one (or two) is the most accurate.

Aside from the benefits of practicing abstinence that are taught in the Christian faith, refraining from sex has been scientifically proven to be successful for women who are seeking marriage. Scientists believe women who “play hard to get” are able to assess a man who will stick by her side during pregnancy.

Forty-three-year-old Lakita Garth was a 36-year-old virgin in 2005 when she kissed her boyfriend-turned-husband for the first time. Garth has gone public about her 36 years of virginity and is now helping other women around the world learn how to refrain from sex prior to marriage.

Excerpts from her interview are below:

On Her Family’s Influence on Her Choice:

In my family, if you had sex outside of marriage, someone got married, or someone got shot! I come from a line of Christians that believe your faith must impact the culture. It has to go farther than your personal relationship with Christ.

On Choosing a Mate that Is Not Into the Church:

You can’t be the key to his spiritual maturity.

Her Advice to Singles:

To be single was to be undistracted in my devotion to God. Keep your options open. God’s perfect mate for you may not look or sound like your ‘fantasy mate’.

One commenter with the user name “Chris” did not agree with Garth’s advice. He responded to her interview saying: “The Bible does not make any of the claims that this article makes about sexual purity before marriage. The abstinence model of Christianity is an inherited tradition and not a hard and fast line which the Bible draws. “Don’t have sex before marriage!” they say. Why? The Bible says we should abstain from “sexual immorality.” What is sexual immorality? “Sex before marriage,” they say. Says who? It is a tradition, not an inviolable maxim — a tradition which made sense in earlier cultures where everyone married AND they did so at a young age. Sex before marriage is certainly a risky venture, but articles like these unnecessarily shame devoted lovers who have not yet overcome the logistical hurdles of holding a wedding. In all honesty, the girl in this article sounds totally self-absorbed/self-righteous, some of the most disgusting traits for a Christian to have. We should NOT be holding her up as a model for Christian women

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Missing the Anonymous!

A friend of mine n I were chatting one day when he received a call from this girl he has been tellin me about.his ‘imaginary friend’ he called her!after the conversation,he told he that he misses her…Now, the question comes to mind,’is it possible to miss someone you have never met?’that was the exact question i askt myself.
Today, there are many social networks we engage in and meet different kinds of individuals with diverse personalities.some leave an impression,some are just a big NO NO( not our kind of persons),others are close to our hearts.often times,we go on chatting with these anonymous individuals for days, months,even years without seeing in reality.we exchange numbers,and other stuffs.most times,the people we meet online know more about us than our physical friends and families.we often wish we could meet them in reality because we think they would have made the best of buddies;we tell them deep stuffs about ourselves and probably,
Vice versa..but what are the signs you actually miss them when they are not around??
*if any time you reach for your system or phone,your first thought is about buzzin the person,
*if you are busy or about to sleep and the person calls or buzzes and you abandon whatever you are doing just because you haven’t spoken to the person all day,
*if when you are bored,lonely or idle and you pick up your phone and go through you guy’s previous messages,
*if you are having a bad day and all you can think of is telling it all to that one person but he or she aint around,
*if you aren’t in sync with a dude or chick the way you are with that person, making you feel frustrated…
Then,honey,you definitely are missing someone you have never met! Then i ask myself another question,’is this love?’lol…leaving that for you to answer people!


Can You Find Love on Online Dating?

Online dating has replaced the bar scene when it comes to meeting new people. Social media sites such as Facebook and Friendster have allowed people the opportunity to not only chat with someone who shares common interests, but also the rare opportunity to get a glance of the daily activities and feelings of the one that they are interested in. Dating sites everywhere have taken advantage of this growing trend and pride themselves on providing clients with the most compatible partner they can find. The question is, does it really work?

Statistically, there are 40 million people in the United States that have tried online dating, with 20% of them in current committed relationships. This being said, whether or not a relationship will work after meeting someone online is a question that can not be universally answered. There are many different factors that go into making a relationship work, making the origins of where you met irrelevant. If meeting through Facebook, you have the advantage of getting a personal glimpse into the personality of an individual. You are able to see the people they associate with and in most cases, how they carry themselves. Dating sites offer profiles of people who were specifically chosen for you, who share the same interests and values that you do. With all of this at your disposal, how could anything go wrong?

With dating sites, the main issue is people tend to lie about as much as they can to create an unrealistic image that will make people fall in love with them. After talking on the phone or online, they meet each other and realize that the person they may have been falling for was not who they said they were. Another, more dangerous issue, is that there have been many cases of violence toward women who have used a dating site, and there are many reported cases of sex offenders who often register on these sites to seek out potential victims.

Facebook may seem like the perfect way to meet someone, but brings its own set of unique issues. While generally an effective way to get to know someone, it may be hard to see the true personality of an individual until after you have met. Most times, people tend to leave many facts about their personal life off of Facebook. While this is a good idea, you could find that the person you thought you knew acts very different than you expected.

True love is hard enough to find, no matter how you choose to do it. The most important thing to remember is to take it slow. Rushing into a relationship with someone that you have met online is never a good idea. Develop good communication over the phone and when setting up the first meet, do it in a public place. From there, it is dating as usual.

No matter how you choose to look for love, compatibility and attraction are still the foundation of a long lasting relationship. Online dating is here to stay and can be a very effective way to find the person of your dreams.
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How To Communicate Better And Learn To Overcome Shyness

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Many individuals have overcome shyness by learning how to communicate better. Now, you can, too! Have you ever stepped into an area full of people who you were not familiar with and felt a bit awkward or self-conscious? Do you experience bouts of anxiety when faced with situations that require you to be social? Are there people you want to talk to or activities that you want to take part in, but hold back due to some unspoken insecurity? If so, you are experiencing shyness. You may be introverted or extraverted. It really does not matter. We all experience bouts of shyness to one degree or another within our lifetime. Did you know that it is possible to successfully engage in overcoming shyness by simply learning how to communicate better? In this guide, you will learn some important facts and strategies that will allow you to eliminate the “shell” that may be holding you back in your personal and professional life.

According to professionals in social psychology, being shy means that an individual experiences apprehension or feelings of discomfort and/or awkwardness when in the same area as others, or when approached by other people. These feelings are often enhanced when in social situations, unfamiliar locations or around people who are unfamiliar. While it is common for everyone to experience shyness at least once in their life to a small degree, many individuals experience it to such a high degree that it results in social anxiety and/or phobias related to social situations, events and experiences. In its most severe forms, individuals that experience shyness may find that it interferes with their personal and professional relationships and hinders them to one degree or another. While many refer to therapy and even anti-anxiety medications to overcome shyness, simply learning to communicate better has also been found to be an effective strategy in overcoming shyness. Not only is this strategy less expensive than therapy and medication, it is also much safer.

When learning to communicate better in order to overcome shyness, it is important to understand the main root causes associated with shyness. The first potential cause is a low self-image. The second root cause is a high pre-occupation with what we are doing, thinking and feeling. The third is engaging in the act of labeling yourself as shy. When learning to communicate better, you will discover that you should not and are not expected to take full responsibility for the conversations that you engage in with others. Communication is an act of expressing thoughts, feelings, ideas and emotions with others while receiving information from that person in return, and vice versa. By simply avoiding taking full responsibility for the conversation and knowing that all the attention is not just on you, you will be taking large strides in overcoming shyness due to insecurities. Remember, the person you are communicating with is likely just as nervous as you are.

In order to communicate better, you must know what the person you are talking to is most interested in. I know this sounds challenging, but it is really quite simple – they are most interested in themselves and what they consider to be important to them. Remember to use the other person’s name frequently and ask a lot of questions. Allow the other person to communicate freely and openly about what they want to express to you. Remember to listen and place the emphasis on the person that you are speaking to. By taking these steps, you are taking the pressure and focus off of yourself and inadvertently placing it on them – which should increase your self-confidence and motivation. This will make you an attractive person to talk to and interact with. Overcoming shyness does not have to be a challenging endeavor. Simply take the focus away from your negative thoughts about yourself and your insecurities and place it on the person you are talking with. It is then that you will truly start to communicate better.

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A True Friendship – Training Your Dog for Loyalty and Obedience

Few animals are so appreciated as the family dog. Whether a purebred pup or an adoption from the local animal shelter, a dog makes more than a pet, he makes a loyal friend. Of course, some dogs seem to have an affinity for following household rules. Some other pups will be hyperactive, inattentive or stubborn learners. There is no reason to become exasperated over a dog that seems reluctant to obey household rules. This simply means that the dog is strong-willed and will require extra attention.

One of the first and most important rules for training your dog is to never, ever speak out in anger or attempt physical violence while training. This will only exacerbate behavioral problems and will cause the dog to develop further problems, such as aggression and unwarranted fear.

Always use a stern, but calm voice when training your dog and only apply steady hand pressure for certain techniques, never a slap or a strike. Dogs are inherently loyal and quite protective of their human family and, if they are physically abused, they will not know who to trust and develop behavioral or emotional problems.

The second thing to keep in mind when training your dog is to have a practically endless reserve of patience. Certain breeds will learn to sit, stay and heel as quick as you please while some other breeds will chase butterflies as you try to teach them even the simplest bit of training.

Always remember, inattention on the part of your dog is not due to its dislike of you. Rather, dogs such as these are naturally hyperactive and extra playful. These are wonderful personality traits and they should be celebrated. Training of this kind should be conducted with a firm touch and a stern voice, not to establish dominance, but to make clear who is the teacher and who is the pupil.

Not only should you approach training your dog with patience and kindness, you should begin training with simple activities that are easy for the dog to naturally understand. For example, do not attempt to teach a new puppy to understand all manner of tricks and commands.

Also, do not attempt difficult training exercises right away. Rather, begin with simple commands such as “sit” and “stay” then gradually work up to more complicated techniques. This will make training more effective and enjoyable for both you and your loyal canine friend.

Finally, it is important to remember that your canine friend is not a dumb animal who is suited for silly tricks to cause laughter. Dogs are living, breathing, thinking creatures that have co-existed with the human race for thousands of years. They do not shirk the calm hand and stern voice of a kind trainer. They will not bite or bark at a diligent trainer who makes certain to reward good behavior while criticizing bad actions.

Whether a new addition to your family or one of many dogs, always treat them as you would like to be treated.
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